Author Archives: Lara Loewenstein

I didn’t fully understand until recently exactly how emotionally and physically challenging the actual procedure of an abortion could be. I’ve been fortunate enough to never have had one, but one of my best friends, Leigh Atkins, did and she honored me by telling me her story. Atkins found out that she was pregnant when […]

Teledildonics. It’s my new favorite word. Try saying it a few times fast. Awesome, right? It’s almost as awesome as what it means ““ the combination of telepresence (the experience of being present in a real-world situation remote from your actual physical location) and sex. In other words, virtually realistic sex. They haven’t gotten the […]

There have only been a few times in my life when I’ve been optimistic about the future of the world and its human inhabitants. Like when discussing the need for buying drinking cocoa from both a fair-trade and a nonprofit company with a guy in Bluestockings Bookstore in New York City, or the sight of […]

“I wanted to ask if you could tell me where my clitoris is. I think I know where it is, but it doesn’t feel good when it gets touched. Is that normal? Also, how do I know if I’ve had an orgasm?” This question never ceases to astound me; I feel like I’ve known where […]

It’s hard to use a condom without having to interrupt the middle of your adventure. It’s even harder to use some sort of contraception that protects you from sexually transmitted infections but still allows you to conceive a child. These scenarios may seem unlikely, but a new product that could make them realities is on […]

When asked what my sexual fantasy is, I’ve been at a loss for how to answer. First, people usually assume that I only have one, which is simply untrue, and second, even if I fantasize about something, I’m not quite sure I want to tell anyone about it for fear that they might actually try […]

Occasionally people e-mail me to ask specific questions about their personal sex lives. While a certain number of these are bored, usually male students with nothing better to do on a Friday night than to send a drunken e-mail to their resident sex columnist, some of these questions are worth answering. And a few of […]