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So you think you know all there is to know about being a good
lover, eh? You’ve mastered the art of the clitoris. The penis
serves no real challenge. I bet you’ve even traversed the
region “where the sun don’t shine.”
Every position?
Done it.
Sex toys?
You’ve got the latest models.
Playing dress up?
It’s like you’re a kid again.
Yup, you’re a regular killer in the sack.
Or are you?
You may have mastered the skill of rope-tying or even the
various degrees of spanking, but you just might be excluding two
tiny, yet nerve packing items from your sexual repertoire. Yes, my
friends, I’m speaking of the nipples.
Standing about three millimeters in height when erect, nipples
serve as the basis for any great sexual encounter.
Erotic yet ignored, the nipples are underestimated players in
the sexual game. They’re the two missing pieces in the sexual
jigsaw puzzle. But enough with the nipple cliches, they’re
just fun.
So what purpose do they serve? Well, a plethora of options await
your imagination. The timid brush of the lips, the more seductive
tongue caress, the spine-tingling suction, or (my personal
favorite) the more carnivorous biting technique are definitely ways
of seeking your partner’s approval.
You see, the nipples have a direct relationship with your key
component down below in heightening your arousal level. Of course,
nipple arousal is not the end-all be-all in the game we all call
sex. It’s simply the opening kickoff in an attempt at
achieving the championship “O.”
Now for women, nipple action is a well-known (but not
necessarily utilized) method of arousal. Men, on the other hand,
may not be as versed on their own nipples’ capabilities.
This is completely unacceptable!
We need to educate ourselves about nipple stimulation skills. In
fact, if you’ve never had your nipples pinched, caressed,
tongued, sucked or bitten, I’d suggest trying it. Now
I’ll be frank with you. There are different sensitivity
levels among people. Some might become very aroused at the
slightest touch of the nipple, while others might not be as
affected. To the latter, I say: fret not.
Even though you may not stand erect after your partner’s
bout with your nipples, the act itself can be erotic enough to get
you going. Nipple action can be a very kinky experience both for
giver and receiver, and this alone can spark hormonal rage.
Now I will remind the reader that playing with nipples, or
nipple sex as I like to call it, is an art form. Don’t go
tugging on the soft and tender tissue and expect to gain your
partner’s admiration. Don’t give your partner’s
nipples a saliva bath either. You must be gentle. No blood drawing
unless you’re asked to.
You might also want to start out a bit modest in your nipple
arousal technique. Especially if it’s your first time. Try a
simple nudge with your nose, followed by a delicate lick. If you
see your partner enjoying it, you might want to use a little
suction followed by an ever-so-gentle bite. After you’ve
discovered your partner’s likes and dislikes, you can mix and
match of your own accord.
On the flip side, as the receiving party, you should by no means
just sit there and allow for your partner to find the right level
of nipple arousal for you. You need to be open about what you enjoy
more or less. This allows for maximum nipple enjoyment and also
keeps your nipples from being overly admired or not nearly as
appreciated. It might be a bit awkward at first, but communication
is a key element in any sexual endeavor.
I’d also like to stress the importance of
self-stimulation. When you masturbate (you should all masturbate),
try touching your chest/breast region. Give your nipples a little
pinch or caress and see how you feel. Self-exploration is not only
fun, but it will help when guiding your partner as well.
Now, let’s talk nipple incorporation. There are times that
are appropriate for nipple arousal and times that are not. For
instance, when giving your partner oral stimulation, it probably
wouldn’t be in your better judgement to switch to the nipple
region just as they’re about to climax.
On the other hand, when on your way down to perform fellatio or
cunnilingus, it is not only appropriate but encouraged to first
explore that region. You also may want to avoid nipple play in
public areas such as a crowded bus. When watching a movie in the
comfort of your own home, however, a little nipple love can be a
perfect way to let your partner know you care.
Yes, the wonderful world of nipples can mean a great deal of fun
for those who dare to be different. You might be a wonderful lover
as is, but you can be even better with a little more effort.
Don’t knock it until you try it and if you’ve tried
it ““ you can always improve it.